We all want to be successful. Why wouldn’t we? Success is the ultimate accomplishment. Success makes us feel that all the work was worth it. Success makes us feel powerful, respected, and depending on what the successful endeavor was, invincible. There are times when I achieve a successful result to an objective and I feel like I can do anything in the world. But there have been times that my successes have scared me half to death. I was afraid because it opened up a world to me that I wasn’t sure I was going to be able to navigate; I wasn’t sure I belonged there. There are many different emotional, financial and physical affects that success has on us. But there is one thing we need to remember… Success is relative.
We each have to have our own definition of success. You cannot allow someone else to affirm your success. You have to set your own goals, and decide if you have reached them. You see, everyone sees success differently. Some see it from a monetary perspective; some see it from a freedom perspective. To one person, their job is the ultimate success, even if it isn’t the highest paying. To another, finding a future spouse is success. And to another, being able to send their child to college when they didn’t graduate high school is success. So, you see, success is as individual and personal as a fingerprint.
Many of us never achieve success because we’re trying to achieve someone else’s idea of success. We are trying to live up to their goals, not ours. We don’t feel successful because we aren’t driving the car everyone wants us to drive, or living in the neighborhood everyone thinks we should be living in. Once you let others define your success you allow them to partially control your life. The first step to success is defining it for you.
Now, some of us never see success because we fall in love with our plan for success. We want to do it the way we want, but sometimes God sends us exactly what we need for success, but we reject it because it didn’t come in the package that we were looking for. The inability to focus on the destination instead of the journey will almost always lead to failure.
So, next time you set a goal, set it for yourself. Define, for yourself, what success is. Don’t let others dictate whether you are successful or not. Decide for yourself how long it will take, and when you are ready to take the step. If you are happy with your success, that’s all that matters. You can’t live your life for other’s happiness, especially if you already know where you set the baseline for your happiness, and/or success. You have to live your life for yourself and you have to set your success level for yourself. Until you accept that, it will be almost impossible to fully be happy with your life. Until next time……
William Wilson, CEO
William Wilson Clothing