Celebrity Designer, William WilsonFirst, I am a Christian. This is not to bash Christianity. Though I fall short, on a regular basis, I do the best I can to live right. It’s the same with my health. I’ve been working out with Preston Lewis (of Lewis Fitness), and trying to eat better. I don’t eat healthy every meal, or every day. It’s a process. But I’m doing better each week. I am not where I need to be. But I’m  getting there. I’m not alone on my journey. There are thousands out there, just like me, on Christian and health journeys. We have our ups and our downs. But we keep going.

The problems with SOME Christians and SOME health nuts, is they always want to critique us on what we’re doing wrong. If you’re doing 3 good things, they’ll focus on the one bad. It’s not that they are incorrect. It’s just inappropriate.

I remember when I returned to the church. There was always someone ready to tell me what I was doing wrong. They walked around quoting scriptures, and giving testimonies as if they have never sinned in their lives. I  felt inadequate, and as if I was never going to be good enough for God to love me. I felt I had to be perfect, and anything less would be unacceptable. Fortunately, I developed a relationship with my pastor, and he taught me the difference between what man says, and what God says. He didn’t let me off the hook, he held me accountable for my actions. But he showed me that God doesn’t need man’s approval to love us, or for us to be saved. He taught me that some of the very people that work all over the church, and are involved in every service, and can quote every scripture, may be further behind on their Christian journey than I was. It was then that I really began to understand God’s love for each and every one of us. I often think of three things he used to ALWAYS say.

1. “Thank God man doesn’t have a Heaven to keep you out of, or a Hell to put you into.”

2. “Don’t be so Heavenly minded that you’re no Earthly good.”

3. “God wants religious fruits; not holy nuts.”

Health nuts can be equally bad. When I moved to Charlotte, I ate an 8 piece box of chicken from Bojangle, a ribeye steak, or a pizzza almost every night. And I do mean EVERY night. And what’s worse, I’d get up at 5:30, and only eat once before going to bed at 1:00 am, or later. So my current diet, which admittedly isn’t great, is a drastic improvement. I may only eat friend chicken once or twice a month. I’ve had 3 ribeyes in the last year, and I only eat pizzas about once every other week, or so. I don’t drink sodas, and I’ve never smoked or drank alcohol. So even though, I’m not doing everything I need to do, I’m doing much better than I was. But you wouldn’t believe the amount of health experts that try to tell me how to eat. Though sometimes, it can be extremely annoying, I know most people are coming from a nice place. I also know not everyone is. It’s ok, I can take it.

But there are many people out there just like me. They are working their butts off trying to do better. And when you rain negativity on them, you do more harm than good. I have a thick skin, and a full understanding of who I am. I can take the criticism. I am also afforded a considerable surrogate support system, provided by my business success. But not everyone has that. Not everyone can take the criticism. Negativity often stops people from trying, or persevering. When someone is doing their best, encourage them. Don’t rain on them. It’s not always about being right. It’s about being useful. Words have power. Words have meaning. Words can often be more powerful than actions. There is a way to be honest, and still be supportive. Let’s try that. Until next time…….

God bless and dress well,

William Wilson, CEO

William Wilson Clothing

Follow William on Twitter: @TheClothier

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2 thoughts on “

  1. Very well said from both a Christian and fitness/healthy lifestyle perspective. I always appreciate people who are not afraid to speak from a place of where they came from and offer the truth with love where it’s more encouraging than negative.

  2. I have always attempted to live by the Scripture that says Matthew 7:3-5
    New International Version (NIV)

    3 “Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? 4 How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? 5 You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.

    As a fitness professional, I found myself being too harsh with my words and have found encouraging words to be much more productive. I now prescribe focusing on one change at a time strategy. Thank you for sharing your thoughts.

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