Contrary to prosperity pastors, motivational speakers, and the inspirational quotes on Twitter and Facebook; not everyone is built for success. The truth is, many of us will never be more than we are right now. Not because we CAN’T, but because we WON’T. We don’t have what it takes to be successful. We have monumental flaws that prevent us from becoming monumental successes. Here are the eight biggest reasons I’ve seen that will keep you from becoming a success.
1 You’re Lazy: Success is a result of continuously working hard. Success comes from sacrifice, commitment and long hours. You must be willing to defer some of your fun for a later date. You can either go to the party now, or you can’t host the party later. For successful people, TIME is their greatest asset. Success isn’t built during working hours; unless you want to be “employee of the month”.
2. Your’e Scared: We all have fears. Anyone that tells you they aren’t afraid are either lying, or they aren’t taking any real risks. I’m afraid every time I try a new idea. I’m afraid it won’t work. I’m afraid it will blow up in my face. I even worry about becoming a laughing stock. But I use that fear to focus me. I pay extra attention to the little stuff. I use the fear of embarrassment to make sure I stay on top of everything. And you know what? Sometimes I still fail. But I own those failures, and and I own them proudly; because I did my best.
3. You’re Arrogant: Let them tell it, some people know everything and never fail. They are the best, and no one can tell them anything. They make statements like “All I do is win.” “Refuse to lose” “Failure is not an option” This all sounds cute, but it’s stupid rhetoric! It’s great for hip hop and bumper stickers; but that’s it. No one wins all the time. You will lose. And not only is failure an option, it’s a distinct possibility. I fail ALL THE TIME. I fail more before June than most people do all year. But every once in a while I succeed. And that makes it all worth it.
4. You Lack Discipline: People don’t care what you’re thinking about doing. They care about what you’re doing. I don’t care about your dreams. I care about what you do when you wake up. Give me a person that continuously fails, over a person that never tries, ANY DAY. The person that constantly fails just needs guidance. He doesn’t need motivation. He doesn’t have a NEW business every 6 months. He’s focused. He just may not have the knowledge he needs. The person that never tries, need a cheerleader. I have no desire to be a cheerleader.
5. You Have Thin skin: Not everyone is going to like you, or agree with your ideas. Many people will see their failure in your success. They will look at you and see what they could’ve been, and then start to hate on you. Success comes with haters. Accept it and move on. I get hated on every day. You have to have thick skin in business, or in life. I’m probably getting hated on right now, as someone is reading this. It’s OK. Simple minds can’t get in my way.
6. You Make excuses: I’m not gonna waste my time addressing excuse makers. You’ll just make another excuse for why it doesn’t apply to you.
7. You Seek Celebrity Over Significance: Everyone wants to be a star. They want 100K Twitter followers, Facebook likes, and Instagram views. They want preferential treatment, and to be treated like a VIP. There’s nothing wrong with that. But you have to do something significant FIRST, before that happens. Just because your friends and family think your awesome doesn’t make you relevant to the outside world. Focus on doing your job. Become the best at what you do, and the fame will come.
8. You Try To Do It All Yourself: I’m a firm believer that you can do anything in the world, but you can’t do it alone. My success has all been assisted by others. Friends, family, colleagues, contractors, vendors, media, even strangers have helped me become who I am. Successful people assemble a team that sees the vision, buys into the vision, and becomes part of the vision. If you don’t have a team around you that supports your vision, failure is imminent.
Some of these may apply to you. These have, and at times still do, apply to me. I’m not impervious to any of these. No one is. The key is identifying and working through them. If you see a flaw, don’t justify it. Try to rectify it. A life of success is so much better than a life of struggling. Trust me, I’ve lived both. Until next time……..
God bless and dress well,
William Wilson, CEO
William Wilson Clothing
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