Why You Aren’t Successful

Photo shoot 1 017 (resized)A greedy heart is poor soil in which to grow success. Many of us will never see success because we can’t see past ourselves to help others. God blesses us to be a blessing to others. He isn’t concerned about us being rich. He’s concerned about us serving His kingdom. He doesn’t care us driving a Bentley or a Mercedes, our kids going to private schools, us flying in private jets, living in huge houses, or living a VIP lifestyle. He is concerned with us helping others. He doesn’t care about us “keeping as much of our money as we can”. He cares about us helping those less fortunate.

I posted a picture on Instagram the other day that said, “God won’t put more on us than we can bear. Which is why some of us aren’t successful.” This is the truth. But some missed the meaning. So I will explain it. We are selfish people. Plain and simple. Sure we support causes, but they are usually the ones that affect someone we care about. But what do we do to help those we have NO CONNECTION to? What do we do for people that have no way of helping us back? Do we only vote for politicians that help us keep the most our net worth, while tearing down those that try to help those not as fortunate?

The Bible says “It’s easier for a camel to pass through the eye of a needle, than a rich man to enter the kingdom of God.” (Matt 19:24). This is because money becomes the master. And you can’t serve two masters. God doesn’t allow some of us to reach any more success than we have because we are either too greedy, too selfish, or too immoral. We will not be able to handle TRUE success.

He won’t allow us to be famous because we’d use our fame only to glorify ourselves, not Him. The fame would turn us into more of a narcissistic than we already are. Some of us would undoubtedly become so addicted to the attention that we will do anything we can to keep it. Fame is a drug that needs to be treated like a controlled substance. When you begin to receive lots of glorification and adoration, if you don’t have people to keep you grounded, YOU WILL become a victim to it. Kind of like the men that can’t take a picture without their shirts off, or the women that can’t take a picture without showing us their butts.

He won’t allow us to get rich because, face it, we couldn’t handle it. If you’d use your rent money to see Beyonce’ or Taylor Swift, you obviously don’t make smart money decisions. If you drive a $100,000 car, but can’t afford to buy custom clothing, (or have a roommate), you obviously can’t afford the car either. So you can’t be trusted to make the smartest of monetary decisions either. Money is a magnifier. Whatever you are when you’re broke, you’ll be more of when you’re rich. If you were cheating on your spouse at Motel 6 when you were broke, you’ll cheat on them in a villa in the Bahamas when you’re rich. If you’re stingy with a little money, you’ll me even more stingy when you acquire wealth. If you feel you deserve to be rich because you sacrificed when you were broke, you will despise those who don’t get to where you are, and you will say arrogant things like ” They’re just being lazy, or making excuses. If I can make it, they can do it too.”(Like you did all the work yourself and God didn’t bless you with clients and breaks.)

If you want to be successful, help someone else become a success. Help someone that can’t help you back. Give to someone who has nothing to offer in return. Help someone make a dollar, that can’t afford to give you a dime. That is when you will see real success. That is when God will bless you. Until next time……..

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William Wilson, CEO

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How Would Dr. King Feel If He Came Back Today?

Photo shoot 1 017 (resized)Today we celebrate Dr. Martin Luther King Jr’s birthday. A day truly deserving of celebration. We will be inundated with an endless array of powerful quotes, facts about his life, and undoubtedly innumerable references to the movie “Selma”. All of which are due a man the caliber of Dr. King. But are we TRULY showing respect, or just giving in to the moment and making ubiquitous posts. I can not, nor do I desire to, judge the heart of any particular person posting what they choose on their chosen social media platform. But what I CAN do is make a observation of social trends and behaviors.

Let me preface by saying, I truly expect a backlash for this post. But, I’m ok with that. It won’t be the first, or the last, time. Here’s what I surmise. Today we’ll read EVERY powerful quote Martin Luther King ever made. Tomorrow, we’ll act like we’ve never heard of him. This is the unfortunate truth. Tomorrow we will go back to living our lives and doing the same things we always do. This is really sad. When I listen to the speeches of Dr. King and what he wanted from society, I look at today and I ask myself, “Would he be happy, or disappointed, if he could come back for one day?” I think both. America has made some incredible improvements since his assassination. Blacks can go to any school they want. We can sit, eat, pray, party, and work wherever we want. We are (at least on paper) equal as a society. Not only can little black boys and little white girls be friends; they can date, marry (or not) and produce bi-racial babies that can become President of the United States. On THAT front, I think he would not only be pleased. He would be overwhelmed! We have what he always wanted; a chance to be treated equal.

But I also think he would be beyond disappointed. The way we use “the N-word” to describe each other. The way we refer to women as “B”s and “H”s in music and television. The number of children raised in single family homes. The legislation that is engineered to create and maintain an invisible, but very real, ceiling on minorities. And the barely digestible trash we produce for ourselves on television (IE Real Housewives of LA, NJ AND ATL, Love and Hip Hop, Basketball Wives, The Bachelor/ Bachelorette and a host of others). I wonder how he would feel to know that parts of our society is completely fine with reality TV shows that depict African American women as catty, argumentative, and overly aggressive drama queens that are more likely to get into a fight at a fine dining establishment than pay the bill. Yet they are appalled and insulted once the SAME type of show involves their Greek letter organizations. What does it say when we are more upset to have our organizations demeaned, than our character as a people. What does that say about our pride as people. As Americans, and as Christians (or whatever faith you practice). If Dr. King spent a complete day with any one of us, at the end of the day would he say, “You make me proud.” or “You break my heart.”? I know many of us aren’t going to be honest with that question. But deep inside, you know the truth.

If we REALLY want to respect not only Dr. King, but ALL of the brave men and women, black and white, that fought, bled, cried and died ALL to have equal rights, we must be respectful to each other, as we want others to respect us. We need to stop bringing ourselves down as a nation, as a society and as a culture. We must stop being afraid of each other as blacks and whites, and start spending more time getting to know each other. Most fear doesn’t come from actual danger, it comes from lack of personal, first-hand encounters. We should stop striving to be better than the community, and make the community better. Just because we have a African American president DOES NOT make America “post-racial”. It’s ironic that I’ve never heard a person say that that actually VOTED for President Obama.

America has made amazing inroads towards racial relations. With each generation, race becomes less of an issue. Many of the racial obstacles that once hindered minorities from advancing have all but been eliminated. But some were placed onto others. We’ve now turned our hatred towards homosexuals, Muslims, and Hispanics. They deserve the same rights to life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness as the rest of us. We don’t have to always agree with each other’s opinions, religions, or politics. But we should, at least, respect them. And we cannot vilify an entire race or religion for the inhumane, and egregious, actions of a radical few. After all, when we look back out our own histories, EVERY race has had some radicals that we do not want to be connected to. Treat others as we would have them treat you. At the end of the day, that’s all Dr. King was dreaming about. Equality. It’s that simple. If you REALLY want to show respect to Dr. King on his day, get out of your comfort zone and talk to someone that isn’t like you. If you’re straight, talk to a homosexual. If your Christian go talk to a Muslim. Who knows, you may walk away with a new friend. And God would be pleased. Until next time….

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Making Less Doesn’t Make YOU Less

Photo shoot 1 017 (resized)I’ve been blessed to live a life I never imagined. Just last weekend, I met the Ambassador of Switzerland. My life, through my business, has afforded me some great privileges. But the biggest privilege isn’t the money, the access or the networking. It’s information and clarity.

It amazes me just how highfalutin and pretentious people get when they get a little bit of money. Suddenly their stomachs can’t handle fast food, or Olive Garden. Wal-Mart is “too ghetto”. Outback is beneath them. Their coffee needs to have a 7 word name with a $6 price tag. Seriously! Who exactly are you? Who are you to look down on the lives of hard working people? When did you become better than your parents? Better yet, when did you forget where you came from?

I didn’t grow up with a lot of money. I never went hungry. I always got new school clothes, and I always got gifts for Christmas. I never went without the things I needed. But I didn’t have many of the “extras” other had. I bought my first pair of Nikes AND my first vehicle. I put myself through school. And  I’ve eaten so many packages of Ramen Noodles, that I could teach a culinary class at Johnson and Wales. I’ve worked since I was 12 years old. I mowed lawns, washed cars, I even sold candy in elementary school; anything I could to legally make money.

I looked forward to going to Searcy (a town in Arkansas about 30 mins from my house) because there was a chance we would stop at McDonalds or Pizza Hut! I LOVED McDonalds burgers and fries. And don’t even get me started on the shakes! When I joined the Navy, I was able to go to even more restaurants like Outback, Olive Garden, and Red Lobster; in addition to McDonalds and Pizza Hut. I was totally fine with that. And my friends were too. They didn’t come from money either, and they were as thankful as I was.

Since reaching a certain “level” of success, I meet a lot of people that turn their nose up at these places. Oddly, it’s not even the rich people that do it. It’s the people that are just starting to make a little money. Many of which are living check to check, or stay home while their spouse works. Somehow, THEY are “too good”. They weren’t “too good” when they were kids, but now they are. They roll their eyes when you mention Red Lobster, Longhorn or Waffle House. They make fun of Wal-Mart shoppers because Wal-Mart is “beneath them”. They  go to Target – which they arrogantly pronounce Tarjey (like that makes it different from any other big box department store selling cheap goods). And don’t be a woman wearing the wrong purse or shoes. If you don’t have “name brand”, or can’t afford to eat or shop at “nice places”, they treat you as less than. What’s even MORE ironic i the ones that have the MOST to say usually aren’t even the ones paying the bill. But we won’t discuss that today.

The Bible warns us not to despise humble beginnings. There is nothing wrong with eating at “chain restaurants”. Shopping at Wal-Mart doesn’t make you less than anyone else. There are “ghetto people” in Target, just like there are in Wal-Mart. (BTW the average product at Wal Mart is 4 cents MORE EXPENSIVE than Target (just saying). Just because your bank account is increasing doesn’t make you too good to eat, shop, stay, and drive the same places and things everyone else does. There’s nothing wrong with eating or shopping anywhere you choose to eat or shop. But when you look down on those places, or the patrons that shop there, that’s VERY wrong. Be careful looking down on those who have less than you. After all, that’s probably how others once looked at YOU.

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