Why You Aren’t Successful

Photo shoot 1 017 (resized)A greedy heart is poor soil in which to grow success. Many of us will never see success because we can’t see past ourselves to help others. God blesses us to be a blessing to others. He isn’t concerned about us being rich. He’s concerned about us serving His kingdom. He doesn’t care us driving a Bentley or a Mercedes, our kids going to private schools, us flying in private jets, living in huge houses, or living a VIP lifestyle. He is concerned with us helping others. He doesn’t care about us “keeping as much of our money as we can”. He cares about us helping those less fortunate.

I posted a picture on Instagram the other day that said, “God won’t put more on us than we can bear. Which is why some of us aren’t successful.” This is the truth. But some missed the meaning. So I will explain it. We are selfish people. Plain and simple. Sure we support causes, but they are usually the ones that affect someone we care about. But what do we do to help those we have NO CONNECTION to? What do we do for people that have no way of helping us back? Do we only vote for politicians that help us keep the most our net worth, while tearing down those that try to help those not as fortunate?

The Bible says “It’s easier for a camel to pass through the eye of a needle, than a rich man to enter the kingdom of God.” (Matt 19:24). This is because money becomes the master. And you can’t serve two masters. God doesn’t allow some of us to reach any more success than we have because we are either too greedy, too selfish, or too immoral. We will not be able to handle TRUE success.

He won’t allow us to be famous because we’d use our fame only to glorify ourselves, not Him. The fame would turn us into more of a narcissistic than we already are. Some of us would undoubtedly become so addicted to the attention that we will do anything we can to keep it. Fame is a drug that needs to be treated like a controlled substance. When you begin to receive lots of glorification and adoration, if you don’t have people to keep you grounded, YOU WILL become a victim to it. Kind of like the men that can’t take a picture without their shirts off, or the women that can’t take a picture without showing us their butts.

He won’t allow us to get rich because, face it, we couldn’t handle it. If you’d use your rent money to see Beyonce’ or Taylor Swift, you obviously don’t make smart money decisions. If you drive a $100,000 car, but can’t afford to buy custom clothing, (or have a roommate), you obviously can’t afford the car either. So you can’t be trusted to make the smartest of monetary decisions either. Money is a magnifier. Whatever you are when you’re broke, you’ll be more of when you’re rich. If you were cheating on your spouse at Motel 6 when you were broke, you’ll cheat on them in a villa in the Bahamas when you’re rich. If you’re stingy with a little money, you’ll me even more stingy when you acquire wealth. If you feel you deserve to be rich because you sacrificed when you were broke, you will despise those who don’t get to where you are, and you will say arrogant things like ” They’re just being lazy, or making excuses. If I can make it, they can do it too.”(Like you did all the work yourself and God didn’t bless you with clients and breaks.)

If you want to be successful, help someone else become a success. Help someone that can’t help you back. Give to someone who has nothing to offer in return. Help someone make a dollar, that can’t afford to give you a dime. That is when you will see real success. That is when God will bless you. Until next time……..

God bless and dress well.

William Wilson, CEO

William Wilson Clothing

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The William Wilson Celebrity Invitational presented by Jetpool

The William Wilson Celebrity Invitational will be held at Carolina Lakes Golf Club on Tuesday, Oct 12th. It is the most exclusive golf tournament in the Carolinas. Limited to 50 players (25 of which are invited celebrities). There are only 25 spots open for amateur play. The William Wilson Celebrity Invitational is not only the most only exclusive tournament in the Carolinas, but it promises to be the most  fun and fast paced. Though there are only 25 amateur spots available for players, spectators are welcome to come watch, take pictures, and get autographs.

Celebrities already committed are current Carolina Panthers James Anderson, Rhys Lloyd, and Charlie Martin, Tony Womack (former New York Yankee), and NASCAR Driver Kevin Conway. Carolina Panther legend Mike Minter will be on hand to hit the ceremonial tee shot. For a full list of confirmed players click here.

Our hole-in-one prizes are second to none. Take a look at this lineup:

1. A full custom wardrobe by William Wilson Clothing (5 suits and 5 shirts) valued at $15000,

2. $50,000,

3. A a private jet trip to anywhere in the US (Courtesy of Jetpool) and a custom suit fitting by William Wilson at 40,000 ft) valued at $20,000, and last but certainly not least:

4. A Lamborghini Gallardo! That’s right, I told you this isn’t your daddy’s golf tournament. Value: $240,000. We are even auctioning off a chance for one fortunate person to take a shot at all 4 prizes. That’s $325,000 worth of prizes. That will change your life.

Here is the Rundown:

25- 2 man teams (1celebrity/ 1 amateur per team)

Format: Stroke play (handicapped)

3 Trophy Categories (low celebrity score- low amateur score- low team score)

Entry Fee – $250.

Spectator Tickets $10 limited number available

Golf Course: Carolina Lakes Golf Club

Beneficiary: Autism Speaks

Pairings Party: Monday Oct 11, 7-9pm at Jetpool Private Hanger. There will be 2 private jets and luxury cars for attendees to view.

Player Experience:

There will be a private pairings party where teams will be decided.

Each player will have their own marked parking space at the Carolina Lakes

Each player will have their own designated space on the driving range (with an assistant)

Each player will be announced on #1 tee box (just like the PGA tour)

Players keep the score of their playing partner

If any ball is hit more than a driver’s length into the woods. The player is to drop, take a stroke, and keep play moving.

If you would like to volunteer or be a sponsor of  the most exclusive golf tournament in town, please email me at WilliamWilsonGolf@Gmail.com

There will be more information upcoming. Thank you in advance for your support. Until next time….

God Bless and dress well,

William Wilson, CEO

William Wilson Clothing

20 Gentleman’s Rules of Dress

William Wilson, CEO

When men look at me and tell me, “I don’t own a suit.”, my first thoughts are, “Where do you take you lady when she wants to be treated like Cinderella? Where do you take her to celebrate those monumental occasions? What do you wear when you are trying to make a good impression somewhere?” You can tell a lot about a man from his closet. Ladies, look in his closet, and you can see where you will spend most of your life with this man. If everything in his closet can be worn as appropriate dress to a bar or club, don’t expect to spend much time at the most exclusive places in town. If it’s full of blue jeans, t shirts, and 2 pair of slacks, don’t expect to see a pair of Jimmy Choo’s in the near future. And if you do, be prepared to be going out with your girlfriends when you wear them.

But for those more refined in our dress, and want to look our best for ourselves and the important women in our lives. I present to you “The 20 Gentleman’s Rules of Dress”. Yes, contrary to the thoughts, and dress of my sartorially challenged brethren, there are rules to fine dress. These rules have been passed down from generations of fine dressers. Men who take pride in not only looking like a gentleman, but being a gentleman. Men that understand that true power makes it impossible to go unnoticed. Gentlemen that understand that your wardrobe speaks when your mouth is closed. For these gentlemen, the rules of dress are not just a guideline, but a way of life that is time honored, and respected to the furthest degree. Remember, there is a reason that when you see photographs of the most successful men in the world, 95% of the time, they are wearing a suit. Jeans are for dress down, not for everyday. I will not give all the rules today, but I will give you enough to get started.

Rule #1: Proper fit is everything. Nothing cheapens your look like ill fitting clothing, especially a suit. If you can afford it, buy custom. There is no substitute for clothing made specifically for your body, and per your individuality and likes. But if custom isn’t in your budget, buy off the rack, and have it tailored at your alterations shop. We call that “Poor Man’s Custom”. Trust me, it’s far superior than strictly wearing it straight off the rack.

Rule #2: A gentleman’s closet should have a minimum of 4 suits. 1 black, 1 gray, 1 navy, and 1 brown or tan.

Rule#3: Don’t brag about an off the rack suit. A gentleman knows the most important name in his suit is his own. Therefore, he buys custom. If you spend over $1000 on a suit, and you buy it in a store, you are being taken as a fool. Store suits, even Gucci, Prada, Armani, and Brioni are mass produced suits that cost the department store less that $200 to buy. They depend on the brand name being sufficient to make you ok with overspending on their product. A real luxury consumer has his suits and shirts made. As I said in a Facebook status once, “Big dogs have tailors, not store receipts.”

Rule #4: Suits should be 100% wool, or linen suits. There is no exception

Rule #5: Your suit for church may not be appropriate for work. If you wear a gray suit, gray hat and gray gators; that may fly in church- not in corporate America.

Rule #6: Do not button the bottom button of your suit or vest. EVER!!

Rule #7: Your jacket sleeve should never touch the back of your hand. If it does, the sleeve is too long. Period. End of debate.

Rule#8: A little of your shirt sleeve should show below you jacket sleeve.

Rule #9: Never wear a button down collar with a tie. A button down collared shirt is a sport shirt, not a dress shirts. It’s tacky, and in poor taste. And before you say, “I see men wear that all the time.” I see kids with their pants hanging off their butts, but that doesn’t make it proper dress. It’s the equivalent to wearing flip flops with a suit.

Rule #10: There is no such thing as a short sleeve dress shirt. Unless you work for Geek Squad,  NEVER wear a short sleeve shirt with a tie.

Rule #11: Always wear a t-shirt: T- shirts not only make a white shirt brighter. It also serves as a barrier to the skin so your shirt doesn’t stick to your skin (which looks horrible, by the way). It also absorbs mild perspiration and allows the shirt to not only hang better, but provides longer wear.

Rule #12: Dress socks should always cover the calves. I hope I don’t need to explain this. Also, socks should match, or be darker than, the suit.

Rule #13: Ties should be made of silk. Do not wear polyester ties. And for goodness sakes, do not wear a tie with fish, or cartoons, or that craziness. The only exception is on Father’s Day, and only if your kid bought it. If your wife bought it, tell her you love her, then proceed to explain why you CAN NOT ever wear that tie in public.

Rule #14: The Windsor is the gentleman’s knot. It’s symmetrical and looks good with every collar. The four- in- one knot (which is most common) is a juvenile knot. the 4-in-1 is the one that always looks like it is crooked, no matter what you do. That’s because it’s an uneven knot pattern.

Rule #15: Cufflinks are never inappropriate. Cufflinks make a statement. They say power, style, and sophistication. If these aren’t you, well…..

Rule #16: Always wear a nice watch. It doesn’t always have to be expensive. But buy the best watch you can afford.

Rule #17: Never need a haircut. It shows poor hygiene to look unkempt. Specify a day to get your haircut every week, and put it on your calendar.

Rule #18: Maintain detail hygiene. Your nails should be trimmed, beard and mustache maintained, and your shoes should be shined. Trust me, ladies notice.

Rule #19: Don’t swim in your cologne. Your cologne should be a pleasant accent to your image, not show up 10 paces before you and then just linger after you leave.

Rule #20: Increase your vocabulary. You ask what does this have to do with dress? There is nothing more disappointing than a man that looks like he came off the cover of GQ, then when you speak to him, he sounds like he failed the 9th grade- last year! Your vocabulary is a vital part of you appearance.

These are just a few of the rules to dress. I understand that not everyone is financially able to buy custom suits. That’s ok. If you can’t afford it, then buy off the rack and have an alterations person take the suit apart and fit it to you better. It won’t be as good as a custom suit, but it will look much better. But the other rules are easily adaptable, and a must if you want to look like a true, well dressed gentleman. Fine dress is not a game, it’s a lifestyle and it is important to realize that you are addressed by the way you dress. Your outward appearance is a direct reflection of what you feel inside. And it’s what people respond to. As my friend, Bill Wiley, once said. ” If you don’t get your props it’s probably your wardrobe’s fault!!! Until next time…

God bless and dress well,

William Wilson, CEO

William Wilson Clothing

www.WilliamWilsonClothing.com

It’s Social Media – Not A Diary!

William Wilson, CEO William Wilson Clothing

I just have to say this. It will upset some of you. But some of you will applaud what I have to say. I’m a social media fiend. I’m on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, all of that. And I spend a lot of time on them. I enjoy them. They have not only allowed me to create a fan base; but it also let’s me interact with them. I have gotten to know people and they have gotten to know me, and it is wonderful. But some people take it too far.

Some of you put too much of your business in the streets. I have a few people that I follow on twitter, just for the sake of generating case studies and quotes to share with students ands audiences I speak to. Some of you should be embarrassed by the incredibly stupid, shameful, humiliating ways you betray yourself on social media. If you want others respect, you should respect yourself first. We are not your friends. We don’t have a personal relationship with you. We don’t have a history with you. So when you decide to hold a 10 minute vent, 140 characters at a time, it is sometimes pathetic. It would be different if you only did it every once in a while. We all have those momentary lapses in judgement, and do something we later regret. I’m not talking about that. I’m talking about those of you who are ALWAYS complaining about your job, you co-workers, not having a man, and your life sucking. ENOUGH ALREADY!!

We all have problems. We all have issues. We all have those days that we wish we could just close our eyes and make go away. But we don’t drag the rest of the world into it every time something doesn’t go our way. I wonder if some of you are EVER happy, with the amount of complaining you do. One of my followers made a reference to her not being able to get a man. I wanted to tell her “Read your timelines from the past 3 weeks, and ask yourself if maybe that’t the reason.” It is embarrassing. I’m embarrassed for them. Again, don’t get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with venting from time to time, but when that is your normal modus operandi, then it is too much.

And while I’m on the topic, is it really necessary to curse ALL THE TIME? I have dropped over 250 people I was following on Twitter just because they curse too much. And for the record, replacing the actual curse words with SMDH, WTH, and WTF- only saves characters of space to write more. It doesn’t minimize the level of ignorance, lack of vocabulary, and inability to express a passionate adult thought or expression without profanity. I can’t tell you how pitiful THAT comes across. If you are trying to be special and achieve greatness, act like it. Don’t be trash, be class. It will get you further. Some of you don’t like what I’m saying. That’s fine, unfollow me, unfriend me, do what you have to do to get through the night. If you disagree with what I am saying, you’re probably not the type of person I want to be associated with anyway. So peace! God bless your future success.

My next statement will sound sexist, and I apologize in advance for those I offend. But I expect a woman to be a lady. I don’t expect her to be perfect (heck, I’m not perfect I get mad. I curse. I get angry like everyone else) But I expect her to know how to handle herself in public like a lady. And yes, social media by latent definition is public. If you don’t want to have more class, substance, respect and decorum than to sound like a drunk trucker in a bar, that’s fine. But don’t be surprised if the men you meet only want to see if you are as trashy in bed as you are on the computer.

Facebook, LinkedIn, Twitter and the rest, are social media. They are tools designed for the public to engage each other. It’s not a personal diary. You don’t have to share your most intimate feelings about EVERYTHING to me and the world. I’m not your best friend, and it’s not my business. If I were that good of a friend, I imagine you would just call me with your issues, instead of just putting all your dirty laundry in the street. It would behoove you to take a little time and think next time, BEFORE you hit the enter key. But then again, what do I know. After all, this is just my perspective. You do what you feel. Until next time…

God bless and dress well,

William Wilson, CEO