Don’t Confuse the Blessing with the By-Product

Photo shoot 1 017 (resized)I am often told how blessed my life is. And I admit it. It really is. I have the opportunity to do things I never thought possible. I sometimes find myself sitting in my hotel room in some city, or on my couch at home, and cry with joy and amazement of the things that happen in my life. I am so thankful God saw fit to bless me this way. Often people tell me “You deserve it. You work hard.” Though I do work hard, that does not make me deserving of these blessings. If what you do decided what you deserve, doesn’t that undermine the definition of a blessing anyway?

Though I have been blessed. Many people miss what my REAL blessings are. They think it’s the celebrities I work with, or the attention, the travel, my home, my network and my lifestyle. They see parts of my life on social media and see THAT as the blessing. Those are NOT the blessings. Those are just the results of the blessings. The real blessings are the things you don’t see. The things behind the scenes. My blessings are many, so I will only name a few.

The first blessing is of-course, God being in my life, and allowing me to have a personal relationship with Him. Without Him, NONE OF THIS happens. I am a Christian in progress. I make a lot of mistakes. I am far from perfect. I don’t always display the best examples of Christianity, and I know He is OFTEN disappointed with the decisions and choices I make. When I’m hurt I’m sometimes angry with Him. Yet he NEVER fails to show me that He is still with me; and that the pain, though excruciating is temporary, and everything will be all right.

My mother is an enormous blessing. I am naturally very closed off, distant and extremely private. I handle most pain internally, and alone. My biggest seasons of pain often manifests itself in me diving even deeper into my work. Rarely do even my closest friends know when I am struggling with something. I’ve always been that way. But I know if I EVER need her, my mom is there for me to talk to. That’s extremely comforting for someone like me that doesn’t open up to people very easily.

My boy Kevin Porter has been a blessing. When I first got my space for William Wilson Clothing in Uptown Charlotte, I was constantly being given high estimates because people knew I worked with celebrities, and figured they could get over on me. (Not realizing I used to own a construction company and knew when they were lying and bidding me high). My buddy Kevin and I tore down all the old walls in the space, and built new ones. TWICE! We hung stuff on walls, moved things around, and then moved them again. And while others tried to charge astronomical prices, Kevin only charged me with friendship. He was always there for me, and he never charged me a dime. He wouldn’t even take it.

My blessings are my friends, who at my darkest hour are always there for me. Even when they don’t know they are. They keep life in perspective. In a world where many are afraid to disagree with me, tell me I’m wrong, or put me in my place; they will. They don’t care if I get upset. They just tell me the truth, and I love them for that. They keep me from making stupid decisions more often than you think.

My blessings are my loved ones. I have love for everyone. But I mean the ones I say “I love you” to. I don’t say those words easily. I probably haven’t said them to 10 people total in my entire life, outside of in a Christian way. Emotional intimacy is my greatest struggle. It always has been. I’m working to do better but it is a process. I’m not really an emotional person. I’m more of a pragmatist. It’s not the best way to be, but it’s all I know. So for people to know this and still stay in my life is a HUGE thing for me. So they are a very crucial blessing.

My “haters” are a blessing. Yes they ARE a blessing. They make me pay attention to the small details. They keep me from overlooking things. They keep me from giving into those rare cases of anger, and posting responses that would immediately undermine my brand and what I stand for. I’m human. And though I’m not an emotional person, I do have feelings, and I can give into them at times. My haters make me make sure to try my best not to do that.

And lastly, my blessings are you guys that support me. You have no idea how often the encouraging things you say and do for me have been the only bright spot in a rough day. I tend to be positive on my social media, so you rarely see, or hear, my pain. You guys always support my efforts, have positive things to say. You pick me up when I’m down. And I appreciate when I’m out in town and someone stops me that I haven’t met and introduce themselves as a Facebook friend, or Instagram/ Twitter follower. I appreciate you taking the time out of your day to acknowledge my existence. You could have walked by without saying a word and I would have been none the wiser. So thank you for showing me that what I do make a difference.

I hope this gives a better insight to the REAL blessings in my life. Hopefully it will help you do the same. Take an introspective look at your life and find out what your REAL blessings are. You may be surprised with what you find out. Until next time….

God bless and dress well.

William Wilson, CEO

William Wilson Clothing

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Success Requires Self Motivation

Success, personal or professional, is a process. It’s rarely easy. You don’t just decide to be a success and all these wonderful things just happen. I wish I could tell you it would. But I’d be lying to you. It can be a constant struggle. One in which you will often want to stop, cry, scream, or just give up altogether. There will be days you’ll feel defeated; and days you will feel like nothing is going your way. You’ll ask yourself, “Why did I even get involved with this?” Don’t worry. This is just a part of the process.

That’s why you MUST be able to motivate yourself. You have to be self-driven to work through the fear, the anxiety and the doubt. You must be able to tell yourself “I can do it.”. Even when all your friends, family and loved ones say you can’t. You have to feel confidence in your heart, when all you hear is negativity in your ear. If you believe in your dream, you can’t give up. But you may have to make some adjustments to your plan. I’ve had to do it. Every successful person has. No plan is perfect from the beginning. You try things. Some work – some don’t, you make adjustments and keep going. Learn from your mistake, and try not to make them again.

Don’t depend on people to be there for you, or to motivate you. It’s GREAT to have people on your side for support. But you can’t always depend on them. Establish a relationship with God, and let HIM motivate you. Let Him give you courage. Let Him give you strength. Ask Him to give you the power to keep going; the wisdom to stop trying; and the discernment to know the difference. Sometimes you have to give up on your plan; because it’s faulty. I have made many plans only to redo them because I was missing information. Once I learned that information, I knew why my plan wouldn’t work; so I changed it. And because of that, I moved one step closer to being a success. Remember this “You can date your plan. But you can’t marry it.” Until next time……

God Bless and Dress Well,

William Wilson, CEO William Wilson Clothing

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Success Requires Separation

William Wilson ThinkingStaying ahead of your competition keeps them from being your competition. You must always be at least one step ahead of your competition at all times in order to separate yourself. Michael Irvin once said, “A receiver doesn’t have to be the biggest, the fastest, or the strongest. If his quarterback can count on him to create 12″ of separation at any time, and catch the ball, he can have a long career in the NFL.” Business is the same way.

You must be able to separate yourself from your competitors. You must be able to answer this question:  “Why should I use you over someone else?”  Your answer must prove you to be one of three things: first, better, or different. Either be the first one doing it, do it better than everyone else, or have a different means of doing it. If you aren’t one of these things, you’re either the status quo, or you’re less. That’s not to say you can’t still find some level of success. It will just be more difficult.

I’m an aggressive businessman. I take risks. I try new things. And I consistently b20140715_210445ite off almost more that I can
chew. Sometimes I actually do bite off more than I can chew. I am constantly trying to find ways to expand the William Wilson brand, or provide a service to my existing clients to separate me from other clothiers. Getting the client is just the first of three steps. I must  retain the client, and get the client to refer me to their peers. To do that, I have to do what I say I’m going to do. And if I make a mistake, I must fix it. Sometimes I have to take ownership of a mistake I DIDN’T make, just to keep the client happy. It’s often better to eat a little pride, than to win a battle that costs you a client (and their potential referrals). Business is not an arena for emotional people. The moment you start making business decisions, based on emotion, is the moment you begin counting down the days until your business is shut down.

I proactively look for ways to offer more for my clients, and to enhance the client experience at William Wilson Clothing. Whether it’s adding a poker table and chess sets,  TVs and XBoxes, or custom made belts made of exotic skins; I am always looking to stay 2 steps ahead of those who operate in my arena. When someone walks into my showroom, I want them to think, “Wow, this is impressive. This is the guy who should be making my suits.” I’m constantly trying to find ways to first, better, or different. Until next time……

God Bless and Dress Well,

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The Clothing Opportunity of a Lifetime

WilliamWilson-1186-2660233048-OI am excited to announce that I am in the pre-launch stage my first RTW (Ready to wear/ off the rack) brand for the William Wilson Clothing. The new brand is called William Everette, a 55-piece collection of the most popular business solids, as well as 5 pinstripe models. The full collection will range from Super 100-Super 160 wools, as well as a poly-rayon blend with a super 150 hand. (That just means it feels as good as a more expensive wool suit)

So what is this opportunity, you’re wondering? Well, I was going to launch the brand on September 1st.  But I decided to get some suits out on the street first, and give the people that supported me a chance to update their wardrobe with some great suits, and an amazing price. So, I’m going to sell 200 suits ranging from $200-$350. Again, this is ONLY 200 SUITS. Regular price will be between $495 and $695. William Everette is designed to be a “gateway brand”. Which simply means, it gets you into a William Wilson suit earlier, and as your career rises, you can move up to custom. I want to develop 20-30 year clothing relationships. This is the first step.

To order, schedule an appointment. You will pick out your suit and purchase at that time. If you are not in the Charlotte area, you can email me and we can get things worked out over email, but there will be processing and shipping charges.

If you’re wondering why I’d do this. That’s easy. You guys have always supported me, whether you could afford one of my suits or not. I’ve often been told “One of these days I’m going to be able to buy a William Wilson suit.” It feels good when people make wearing one of my suits a goal. It’s very humbling. I feel I’ve been successful because I’ve never put money before people. And I’ve tried to always help anyone I can. This allows me to do both. It allows some of you who, may not have $1500-$20,000 to drop on a custom suit, the chance to get a really great suit at a ridiculous price.

If you are interested in getting in on this opportunity, please email me at William@WilliamWilsonClothing.com. Or reach out to me on Twitter or Facebook. I look forward to serving your clothing needs. Until next time…..

God bless and dress well.

William Wilson, CEO

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Why Fear Is A Good Thing

William Wilson ThinkingI know you are thinking, “How can fear be a good thing?” You probably thinking of all the negative things that come with fear. Anxiety, nervousness, lack of sleep, on edge, and being in a constant state of uncertainty. Or as I like to call it, “ENTREPRENEURSHIP”. I know right about now, someone is thinking 2 Timothy 1:7 (For God hasn’t given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.) And I am not one to go against the Bible. But before you get on your holy high horse, we ALL do PLENTY of things on a regular basis that God didn’t give us a spirit of.  So let’s not be sanctimonious here please.

Fear is good for 3 reasons:

1. Fear makes you pay attention. When you are scared, you pay attention to everything around you. You look for anything out of place. You make sure you cover all of the vulnerabilities that you can. You make sure to dot your I’s, and cross your T’s. Kind of like when the police are behind you. You make sure you drive the speed limit, use your turn signals, have on your seat belt, and you don’t text and drive.

2. Fear makes you appreciate things. When you fear losing something, you pay more attention to it. It moves up your priority list. You either handle it yourself, or you put your BEST person on it. When you’re afraid you are about to lose your best client (or your significant other) you make sure to do everything you can to keep them. You stop focusing on how much more you can add to your portfolio, and focus on paying attention to what you already have.  After all, adding new customers, while losing old ones, is a net zero gain.

3. Last and most importantly. Fear means you’re taking a chance. If you start  a new venture and you’re not afraid it will fail, then you aren’t really taking a risk. You’re just playing it safe. You’re not making moves, you’re just treading water. That’s not to insult anyone. It’s just the truth. It isn’t always a bad thing. You shouldn’t try to always hit home runs. Sometimes you just need to get on base. But if you NEVER feel afraid of failure, embarrassment, or losing; you haven’t fully invested yourself in it.

Life is about taking chances. That’s why it’s a risk. I have been more successful than I deserve to be. And I fail. I FAIL A LOT! Every time I launch a new brand, begin a new initiative, or try an idea- I am scared to death it won’t work. The night before my William Wilson Celebrity Invitational Party I can barely sleep. That entire day I’m nervous people won’t show up. Then I’m nervous they won’t have a good time. I’m nervous the next day it’s going to rain, and people won’t get to play golf. My stomach is in knots that the celebrities that graciously give their time to come play won’t have a good time and won’t come back. Every year, God blesses me with a successful event, and the next year I’m just as nervous as before. This is not just the life of an entrepreneur. It’s life period. Take some chances. Get out of your comfort zone. Take a risk. Will you fail? Maybe. Can you guarantee your risk will pay off? No. But when you take a big chance, and you’re worried it won’t work. And you pray and you pray; and when the time comes, it works. There is no other feeling on Earth like it. Give it a shot. It just may work. Until next time…..

God bless and dress well.

William Wilson, CEO

William Wilson Clothing.

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Help Me Enhance Your “Perspective”

I created The William Wilson Perspective, with one goal in mind; “Help as many people as I can”. I like to think that I have done that, but I want to be able to do more. So, in an attempt to be more interactive, I’m changing The Perspective from a text only format to a video/ text format. I will be answering questions, on video, that I receive from you via my Facebook fan page, or Twitter. So please send your questions to me. You can ask about anything, business, branding, lifestyle, entrepreneurship, how to dress, or just the way I approach life. As long as they aren’t too personal, I will answer just about any type of question.

I look forward to using this format to help as many people as possible. Please understand I may not be able to answer ever question that I’m asked. Maybe some of you will have the same question, which I often encounter. But I will do everything I can to answer them as I can.

This post in an example of  the new “vlog” format. Archives of posts will be here at The William Wilson Perspective. But they will also be available on my YouTube channel ” The William Wilson. Feel free to subscribe to both my blog and my YouTube channel. I hope to hear from you soon. Until next time….

God bless and dress well.

William Wilson, CEO

William Wilson Clothing

My Amazing Trip To Food Lion

William Wilson ThinkingIt’s awesome how God always knows when to send someone into your life at JUST the right time. That happened to me today, and I am so grateful. If you know me, you know I’m not one to get down often. I’m usually pretty positive, and pride myself on being optimistic. Today, (July 16) I was finding it extremely difficult to do so. That changed this afternoon. Let me expound.

I believe in listening to both sides of any story. This includes the Zimmerman case. So I’ve been listening to WBT, ALL DAY, to hear the “Justice was served” side of the Zimmerman story. And honestly, my blood has been BOILING. At times, it took intense and immediate prayer to not allow my heart to be filled with hate. I could feel hatred building up inside me. It felt like poison infecting my body. I like people, I don’t care what color, religion, sexual orientation or political affiliation. I just like people. So to feel these feelings are just foreign to me. Let me clarify something. I wasn’t angry at white people. I haven’t been, and I won’t be. I was angry with the people calling in. But I wasn’t angry because of their opinions. But I was angry for 2 reasons.

1. I listened to caller after caller, and I realized they have strong opinions about why “black people” are upset. But they really have NO IDEA why people are upset. They are putting their own reasons to this story, and then commenting on it. To his credit, the DJ (I think it was Keith Larson) that was on called them out when they were wrong, and sarcastically ridiculed them, though I’m not sure some of them even realized it.

2. Because this is being categorized as “black anger”. This isn’t a “black anger” issue. This is a multi-cultural anger issue. All races are angry, just not all the people of those races. I blame the media for much of that. As I watch the post-verdict coverage, it seems 99% of the Team Trayvon is black, and 99% of Team Zimmerman is white. That is inaccurate, and just exacerbates the racial bias, and rhetoric.

Anyway, I was at Food Lion, on Beatties Ford Rd. My first time ever going there. (for those not familiar with Beatties Ford Rd, it’s in a predominantly black area of Charlotte). While I was shopping, I noticed an older white gentleman looking at me. Not staring, or stalking, or anything. He just had an inquisitive look. I paid it no mind, because I had things to do, and, quite frankly, I wasn’t in the mood to deal with it. While I was in line to pay for my groceries, the gentleman approached me. To my surprise, he me asked if I was William Wilson, and was my name “The Clothier” on Twitter. I said yes. He then shook my hand, said he follows me on Twitter and reads my blog. He went on to say he could not have appreciated me writing “How I see Racism In America” any more. He was furious about the verdict and could not even put that anger into words. He went on to say Zimmerman should never see the outside of a jail cell, and that he “hopes he burns in Hell”. I honestly thought he was gonna bust a blood vessel. He was more angry because some of the same black people he was siding with, were lumping him into the pro-Zimmerman camp. He was being lumped into something he didn’t remotely believe in, just because he was white. He appreciated me acknowledging that racism exists, while also stating that not all white people were racist. I told him thank you and proceeded with my check out. He then shocked me again by saying my money was “no good” and paid for my items. He then told the young man at the register to read the blog as well; and that I was a great role model. I needed that today. Not because of the money, but I needed to hear a rational voice after hearing so much anger and vitriol. God is good! Until next time….

God bless and dress well.

William Wilson,CEO

William Wilson Clothing

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