It’s A New Year, But Is It The Same Old You?

William Wilson, CEO

William Wilson, CEO

Once again, we’ve reached a new year. Some of us were not so fortunate to reach this milestone. But for those of us who did, what are we going to do now? How will we make this year any different than last year? For many, the answer is nothing. Sure! We’ll make New Year’s resolutions, to start working out, stop drinking/ smoking, stop going to the clubs, start going to church, go back to school; the possibilities are endless. The point is, at some point in our lives, we have all been guilty of falling into the trap of making drastic changes in our lives on January 1st; only to return to business as usual by January 15th. Einstein said the definition of “Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, and expecting different results. I’m not immune to this myself.”

We all have changes we need to make, but fail to do so. It could be for many reasons; fear of being alone, fear of losing friends, fear of being ostracized, laziness, and but usually, it comes from a lack of commitment. It’s easy to come up with things we need to change, but until we stop talking it, and actually start walking it, we are lying to ourselves if we think things will get better.Happy New Year 2013

I was one of those people that would find a significant date, such as my birthday, Christmas, New Year’s, whatever day, and make a grand resolution to make a big change in my life. Then I’d change my mind. But, only after I decided to make some changes, and COMMITTED to those changes, did I begin to see real changes in my life. It wasn’t always easy. I lost friends. I had sleepless nights. I got ridiculed. Some people even turned on me because “I had changed.” Sometimes, those are the things that have to happen in order to achieve your best potential. Sometimes, you have to separate yourself from the things you care about most, to have the things you want most. Not everyone in your circle is your friend. Not everyone that opposes you is your enemy. Once I got through the initial shock and pain that came with the changes in my life, I began to see small signs of success. Then they got bigger, and became more frequent. Before I knew it, I had begun a whole new life. The changes I thought were huge changes were, in fact, very minute in respect to the other changes it led to. And though it was hard in the beginning, it was absolutely worth it.

When all you see is the obstacle, it’s impossible to see the success. A friend of mine once told me, “You don’t have to change your point of view, change your viewing point.” This was a monumental piece of advice that has served me well. I hope it can do the same for you. You have the power to decide how you want to live your life. You decide where you go, and why you go. You decide whether to stay in that relationship or not. You decide whether to buy that outfit or save some money. You decide whether to stay in bed or go workout. You decide whether to go to church or go tailgating. The fact is, how you live your life, and to some point, how successfully you live it is entirely in your hands. Will you actually make some changes this year, or will you join the millions that nag, complain, and annoy your friends with your “I need to stop…” or “I need to start…”? Stop bugging your friends with empty rhetoric, get off your butts, and get started. If you’re not going to do that, at least keep your nonsense to yourself. It’s slowing down the people who are actually TRYING to make some changes. Your life is in your hands, what you do with it is up to you. Until next time….

God Bless and dress well,

William Wilson, CEO

William Wilson Clothing

Man’s Rejection or God’s Protection

William Wilson, CEO

Rejection is as much a part of life as acceptance. At times, more so. Sometimes, it’s the caveat that predicates our path to success. Oftentimes when I speak to budding entrepreneurs, or students, they assume that things come easy for me because I have reached, what they feel, is a great level of success. Though I have been blessed to have achieved some success; I am nowhere near my goal. Contrary to some of their beliefs, I still face a significant amount of adversity and failure every day. No great achievement comes without risk and failure. The sooner we accept that, the sooner we can truly start our path to success.

As some of you know, I have been on a search for space for the Charlotte office of William Wilson Clothing. I wasn’t looking for anything overly extravagant. I was looking for 300-400 sq. ft., near Uptown or in the Meyers Park/ Dilworth area. I had a budget in mind that I felt was fair, and I began my search. Oddly enough, I quickly found what I thought was a blessing from God. There was a space in the Charlotte Plaza Building,  between Showmars and Starbucks that was perfect. I called the leasing agent, Mike Lucier of CB Richard Ellis, and scheduled an appointment to view the space. Turns out. it was an old florist shop, so there was a lot of pegboards on the wall and a tile floor. All I really needed from them was to lay down carpet, and return the walls to sheetrock, which would be necessary for anyone. Other than that, it was PERFECT! Great location, plenty of traffic, built in marketing, and the price was lower than I was looking for. This would have probably been his easiest lease of the year. Send me a proposal, let my lawyer look at it, I sign it, we’re in by Dec 1, and everyone is happy. No brainer, right? Not so fast my friend.

For whatever reason, I could not get him to send me a proposal. For weeks I emailed, called and texted him to send me a proposal. I even went so far as to email the owners of the building to see if they just didn’t want to lease to me, or if there was some other issue. I received a response saying that they did want to lease to me, and that I would receive some correspondence from Mike. The correspondence I received was I’d have something in a couple of weeks. That was in November. Til this day, I have received no proposal, lease agreement, or any other correspondence to advance this process. I was upset. I was disappointed. This was an ideal location and I could practically print my own money from that place. But for whatever reason, they rejected me, and my business. Thus began a long, annoying, arduous task of looking for a space. Though I found other prospects, none were what I was looking for. None of them made me say “WOW!” I eventually found a space that “would do” and was about to sign papers on it, when I called the agent to ask a question, I didn’t get a response. I emailed the next day. Same thing. “Here we go again”, I thought. This is ridiculous. ANOTHER rejection. So as I’m driving down the road, I see this sign against a building. I call it, not thinking much about it at the time. In fact, I’d seen the signs many times driving on that street. It was for a 640 sq ft space, which was more than I needed, and what I assumed would be out of my acceptable budget.

The agent, Jay Snover, called me and I met him the next morning at the building. I looked at the space. WOW! It was perfect. It was bigger than I needed, but not as much as I thought. They were about to lay down new carpet, and had painted the walls. I won’t go into the details of the negotiations, but let’s just say, they gave me FAR AND BEYOND what I was looking for, at half the price of the first building. In fact, this space will directly represent the brand William Wilson Clothing has grown to represent. I couldn’t have asked for anything better. Now I understood why God kept allowing me to be rejected. He had something better in mind. And it was right in front of me all the time. By the way, I happened to be at the Charlotte Plaza Building the other day. The space is still available.

We are often discouraged by failures in our life. This is understandable. When you put your heart and soul into something, and it doesn’t work, it hurts. And sometimes it hurts really bad. I had lunch with a dear friend of mine, Nathan Krum, at the Speedway Club and he made the statement, “Sometimes man’s rejection, is God’s protection.” Though he was talking about another situation, it fit perfectly here as well. Quite often, our greatest joy will come after our greatest pain. Don’t fall for silly bravado like “Failure is not an option.” “All I do is win” and that foolishness. Failure and rejection is always an option. More often than not, it’s a possibility. But it’s what you do when you get rejected that defines who you are. Not the rejection. Believe in yourself. Stay strong. And stay prayed up. God will provide a way, out of no way. After all, “If God be for you, who can be against you.” (Rom 8:31) Until next time….

God bless and dress well,

William Wilson, CEO

William Wilson Clothing

Do You Know Who I Am?

I hate when someone calls me out of the blue to meet with me because they want to see “how our businesses can work together”. Especially when they is no feasible way for us to work together. It basically comes down to they just want access to my client list. For those of you who feel this is a bright idea, let me tell you now. IT IS NOT! I deal with high profile clients that do not appreciate being solicited, especially to someone else. If  you ask me to do that and I don’t even know you, that further lets me know that you are not accustomed to dealing with highly successful, or high profile people.

But that isn’t what this is about. Today I’m talking about the geniuses that ask to meet with me, but have no idea who I am, what I do, or what I’m about. If you are going to request a meeting with someone, have the decency to do the research and get to know something about them. Nothing makes me feel like I am wasting my time more than sitting in a meeting, I didn’t request, and having to introduce myself. If you asked to meet with me, find out about me on your own. This isn’t a date, this is business. Look at my website, read my blog, look at my Facebook and Twitter updates. Find out as much as you can. This saves us both time, and potentially you a lost sale.

Business is about relationships. I won’t do business myself with people I don’t know; let alone introduce you to someone else in my circle. Now I’m not saying if you do your research you will automatically get my business. But I am saying that if you don’t; I guarantee you will not get my business. I don’t care if you are selling oxygen and I’m suffocating. I do not do business with people that are so disrespectful, incompetent, and unprofessional as to waste my valuable time requesting a meeting, but not doing their due diligence and preparing for it. Successful people don’t meet for the sake of meeting. We don’t fill our calendars with meetings, just to feel busy or important. We meet with a purpose, or we don’t meet at all. My time is valuable. If you don’t have enough professionalism to research the person, and company you are requesting a meeting with, you have no business meeting with them.

God Bless and dress well,

William the Clothier