Why You Aren’t Successful

Photo shoot 1 017 (resized)A greedy heart is poor soil in which to grow success. Many of us will never see success because we can’t see past ourselves to help others. God blesses us to be a blessing to others. He isn’t concerned about us being rich. He’s concerned about us serving His kingdom. He doesn’t care us driving a Bentley or a Mercedes, our kids going to private schools, us flying in private jets, living in huge houses, or living a VIP lifestyle. He is concerned with us helping others. He doesn’t care about us “keeping as much of our money as we can”. He cares about us helping those less fortunate.

I posted a picture on Instagram the other day that said, “God won’t put more on us than we can bear. Which is why some of us aren’t successful.” This is the truth. But some missed the meaning. So I will explain it. We are selfish people. Plain and simple. Sure we support causes, but they are usually the ones that affect someone we care about. But what do we do to help those we have NO CONNECTION to? What do we do for people that have no way of helping us back? Do we only vote for politicians that help us keep the most our net worth, while tearing down those that try to help those not as fortunate?

The Bible says “It’s easier for a camel to pass through the eye of a needle, than a rich man to enter the kingdom of God.” (Matt 19:24). This is because money becomes the master. And you can’t serve two masters. God doesn’t allow some of us to reach any more success than we have because we are either too greedy, too selfish, or too immoral. We will not be able to handle TRUE success.

He won’t allow us to be famous because we’d use our fame only to glorify ourselves, not Him. The fame would turn us into more of a narcissistic than we already are. Some of us would undoubtedly become so addicted to the attention that we will do anything we can to keep it. Fame is a drug that needs to be treated like a controlled substance. When you begin to receive lots of glorification and adoration, if you don’t have people to keep you grounded, YOU WILL become a victim to it. Kind of like the men that can’t take a picture without their shirts off, or the women that can’t take a picture without showing us their butts.

He won’t allow us to get rich because, face it, we couldn’t handle it. If you’d use your rent money to see Beyonce’ or Taylor Swift, you obviously don’t make smart money decisions. If you drive a $100,000 car, but can’t afford to buy custom clothing, (or have a roommate), you obviously can’t afford the car either. So you can’t be trusted to make the smartest of monetary decisions either. Money is a magnifier. Whatever you are when you’re broke, you’ll be more of when you’re rich. If you were cheating on your spouse at Motel 6 when you were broke, you’ll cheat on them in a villa in the Bahamas when you’re rich. If you’re stingy with a little money, you’ll me even more stingy when you acquire wealth. If you feel you deserve to be rich because you sacrificed when you were broke, you will despise those who don’t get to where you are, and you will say arrogant things like ” They’re just being lazy, or making excuses. If I can make it, they can do it too.”(Like you did all the work yourself and God didn’t bless you with clients and breaks.)

If you want to be successful, help someone else become a success. Help someone that can’t help you back. Give to someone who has nothing to offer in return. Help someone make a dollar, that can’t afford to give you a dime. That is when you will see real success. That is when God will bless you. Until next time……..

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William Wilson, CEO

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How Would Dr. King Feel If He Came Back Today?

Photo shoot 1 017 (resized)Today we celebrate Dr. Martin Luther King Jr’s birthday. A day truly deserving of celebration. We will be inundated with an endless array of powerful quotes, facts about his life, and undoubtedly innumerable references to the movie “Selma”. All of which are due a man the caliber of Dr. King. But are we TRULY showing respect, or just giving in to the moment and making ubiquitous posts. I can not, nor do I desire to, judge the heart of any particular person posting what they choose on their chosen social media platform. But what I CAN do is make a observation of social trends and behaviors.

Let me preface by saying, I truly expect a backlash for this post. But, I’m ok with that. It won’t be the first, or the last, time. Here’s what I surmise. Today we’ll read EVERY powerful quote Martin Luther King ever made. Tomorrow, we’ll act like we’ve never heard of him. This is the unfortunate truth. Tomorrow we will go back to living our lives and doing the same things we always do. This is really sad. When I listen to the speeches of Dr. King and what he wanted from society, I look at today and I ask myself, “Would he be happy, or disappointed, if he could come back for one day?” I think both. America has made some incredible improvements since his assassination. Blacks can go to any school they want. We can sit, eat, pray, party, and work wherever we want. We are (at least on paper) equal as a society. Not only can little black boys and little white girls be friends; they can date, marry (or not) and produce bi-racial babies that can become President of the United States. On THAT front, I think he would not only be pleased. He would be overwhelmed! We have what he always wanted; a chance to be treated equal.

But I also think he would be beyond disappointed. The way we use “the N-word” to describe each other. The way we refer to women as “B”s and “H”s in music and television. The number of children raised in single family homes. The legislation that is engineered to create and maintain an invisible, but very real, ceiling on minorities. And the barely digestible trash we produce for ourselves on television (IE Real Housewives of LA, NJ AND ATL, Love and Hip Hop, Basketball Wives, The Bachelor/ Bachelorette and a host of others). I wonder how he would feel to know that parts of our society is completely fine with reality TV shows that depict African American women as catty, argumentative, and overly aggressive drama queens that are more likely to get into a fight at a fine dining establishment than pay the bill. Yet they are appalled and insulted once the SAME type of show involves their Greek letter organizations. What does it say when we are more upset to have our organizations demeaned, than our character as a people. What does that say about our pride as people. As Americans, and as Christians (or whatever faith you practice). If Dr. King spent a complete day with any one of us, at the end of the day would he say, “You make me proud.” or “You break my heart.”? I know many of us aren’t going to be honest with that question. But deep inside, you know the truth.

If we REALLY want to respect not only Dr. King, but ALL of the brave men and women, black and white, that fought, bled, cried and died ALL to have equal rights, we must be respectful to each other, as we want others to respect us. We need to stop bringing ourselves down as a nation, as a society and as a culture. We must stop being afraid of each other as blacks and whites, and start spending more time getting to know each other. Most fear doesn’t come from actual danger, it comes from lack of personal, first-hand encounters. We should stop striving to be better than the community, and make the community better. Just because we have a African American president DOES NOT make America “post-racial”. It’s ironic that I’ve never heard a person say that that actually VOTED for President Obama.

America has made amazing inroads towards racial relations. With each generation, race becomes less of an issue. Many of the racial obstacles that once hindered minorities from advancing have all but been eliminated. But some were placed onto others. We’ve now turned our hatred towards homosexuals, Muslims, and Hispanics. They deserve the same rights to life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness as the rest of us. We don’t have to always agree with each other’s opinions, religions, or politics. But we should, at least, respect them. And we cannot vilify an entire race or religion for the inhumane, and egregious, actions of a radical few. After all, when we look back out our own histories, EVERY race has had some radicals that we do not want to be connected to. Treat others as we would have them treat you. At the end of the day, that’s all Dr. King was dreaming about. Equality. It’s that simple. If you REALLY want to show respect to Dr. King on his day, get out of your comfort zone and talk to someone that isn’t like you. If you’re straight, talk to a homosexual. If your Christian go talk to a Muslim. Who knows, you may walk away with a new friend. And God would be pleased. Until next time….

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The 3 Children of Assumption

WilliamWilson-1186-2660233048-OI was given a piece of advice by a good friend of mine named Tom Fehlman. He said “Always try to prove your assumptions wrong.” This advice is PRICELESS. When you have an assumption, it’s easy to prove yourself right. But if you turn it around and try to prove yourself wrong, you’ll ask yourself a completely different set of questions, and subsequently, may even see things from a different perspective. Assumptions can be one of the most dangerous things a person can do regarding success, because it’s not the assumptions that get people in trouble. It’s acting upon them without verifying first. Assumption gives birth to 3 children that will destroy your business, or personal, life.

1. Assumption is the Mother of Mis-communication: When you assume you already know what someone thinks, or is going to say, you don’t fully listen to them. You have your response already in your mind before they finish their sentence, and will usually cut the person off mid sentence. Or worse, instead of asking the question first, we act off of our assumptions and exacerbate situations. Take the time to fully listen to what someone has to say. THEN verify what you heard and what they said align. It will will prevent costly mistakes down the road.

2. Assumption is the Mother of Inefficiency: When you think you already know what you need to do, or how to do it, you tend to not read the instructions; and important, time-saving information is missed. It’s like not reading the assembly manual, but instead, putting something together our own way. We somehow always end up with extra parts when we’re done. And thus time, energy and potentially money is wasted going back to find out what we did wrong. Learn the rules, directions, expectations and process BEFORE you start a project or journey. It will save a lot of time and headaches.

3. Assumption is the Mother of Failure: Most people fail because they lack the necessary information needed to succeed. They think they know everything, so they do it their way. Often with poor, or incomplete data, lack of preparation, or bad timing. Either way, when you act upon assumptions without proper verification, you set yourself up to fail. Hopefully, you will recognize this and correct yourself before you’re too far into the process. But if you don’t, there will come a point when you’re too far gone to fix it. Don’t assume. And if you do, take the time to ask anyway. It’s better to take an extra 30 minutes to do it right, than another 2 weeks to do it over. Until next time…..

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Success Requires Self Motivation

Success, personal or professional, is a process. It’s rarely easy. You don’t just decide to be a success and all these wonderful things just happen. I wish I could tell you it would. But I’d be lying to you. It can be a constant struggle. One in which you will often want to stop, cry, scream, or just give up altogether. There will be days you’ll feel defeated; and days you will feel like nothing is going your way. You’ll ask yourself, “Why did I even get involved with this?” Don’t worry. This is just a part of the process.

That’s why you MUST be able to motivate yourself. You have to be self-driven to work through the fear, the anxiety and the doubt. You must be able to tell yourself “I can do it.”. Even when all your friends, family and loved ones say you can’t. You have to feel confidence in your heart, when all you hear is negativity in your ear. If you believe in your dream, you can’t give up. But you may have to make some adjustments to your plan. I’ve had to do it. Every successful person has. No plan is perfect from the beginning. You try things. Some work – some don’t, you make adjustments and keep going. Learn from your mistake, and try not to make them again.

Don’t depend on people to be there for you, or to motivate you. It’s GREAT to have people on your side for support. But you can’t always depend on them. Establish a relationship with God, and let HIM motivate you. Let Him give you courage. Let Him give you strength. Ask Him to give you the power to keep going; the wisdom to stop trying; and the discernment to know the difference. Sometimes you have to give up on your plan; because it’s faulty. I have made many plans only to redo them because I was missing information. Once I learned that information, I knew why my plan wouldn’t work; so I changed it. And because of that, I moved one step closer to being a success. Remember this “You can date your plan. But you can’t marry it.” Until next time……

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